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Often the presenting issue isn’t about control at all, but anxiety, depression and low self-esteem.
It may be only when client-therapist trust has been established that the telltale signs begin to emerge: ‘he doesn’t like me going out with my friends’; ‘he puts me down until he gets what he wants’; ‘he gets very angry if I disagree with him’; ‘he’s always accusing me of having an affair’; ‘he won’t allow me to see my family’.
Ironically, it can be good news if there is still a power struggle going on between a couple.
Because these individuals need a high level of control, they also need to control their image, and so while they will usually acknowledge that they need a lot of control in situations, they will reject the "freak" part of the label—the association that there is something wrong with them or that they need control.
Many of us visualize a controlling partner as one who openly berates everyone in their path, is physically aggressive, or constantly makes overt threats or ultimatums.
We picture the grumpy bully who belittles every server he or she encounters, or commands their partner how to dress from head to toe.
Sometimes, the emotional manipulation is complex enough that the person who is being controlled actually believes that they themselves are the villain, or that they are extremely lucky that their controlling partner "puts up" with them.
Whether controlling behavior leads to more severe emotional or physical abuse or not, it is not a healthy situation.